….It’s not you, it’s me.

One of the unintended consequences of Donald J Trump becoming President is the manifestation of people’s true feelings about me and people who share my ideology.  I do not feel the need to prove to Liberals that I am not homophobic, racist, bigoted, xenophobic, or any other politically incorrect label that can be or has been put on me.I do have a problem with individuals who expect me to accept them but they cannot reciprocate.

Added to the revelation of real intolerance is that  I AM TURNING 60, and I don’t plan on dying anytime soon!  To say that I have earned my 60 years is an understatement.

Before my 30th birthday I was ending a 14 year abusive relationship and walking out with nothing but my three children:  I had to fight to keep them.  Before my 5Oth Birthday I literally  watched my first born, and only, son as well as my mother die within 30 days of each other while knowing that my grandmother was also dying: she died 3 days before her daughter, my mother.  This in between life’s regular trials, remarrying, moving away from friends and family to a place I never really fell in love with (sorry Miami). Did I mention one of my best friends died 11 months after my mother died- she had supported me during this ordeal while fighting lung cancer. A few years ago  another very good friend and confidant died – she was my encourager and voice of reason, a truth teller.

I had to share that bit of personal information to explain why I am distancing myself from long time friends who were later demoted to “associate”.

Once upon a time I was a Black Baptist Democrat who naively embraced Democrat ideology. Then I started studying the Word of God and paying attention to what people were saying. My ideology changed but I remained a loyal friend to my Democrat friends, and family. These friends distance themselves from me associating with me when the needed something.

Now as a non-church affiliated registered Republican with Bible based Conservative values I embrace truth, facts not lies. I don’t stutter when I talk to these friend-associates, nor do I lie. I don’t speak as a perfect being only as a being who loves whom I am speaking to. These individuals want to hear lies and they often speak lies.

Let’s blame my boldness on President Trump. Neither he nor I am perfect but we do what we need to do in order to accomplish what is good for all concerned.

I have very little tolerance for individuals who lack integrity. That means DON’T LIE TO ME. When I was a Democrat, even a registered Independent, I tolerated my lying friends – I can’t do that any more.  Especially since the lies are so stupid and senseless.

To these individuals I say: Stay where you are but I have got to go! Your life is your life and if you need me, if I can without going to far out of my way, I will help. But, I will no longer be there for you to drop by when you feel like it, call when you have time or ask for a favor because you know I will.  I AM DONE.

The fact that you associate everyone who supports President Trump as a racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic, and so forth person bothers me. And it bothers me because you clumped me into your ignorant ideology. I am getting to old to ignore your foolishness and TRUMP WILL STILL BE YOUR PRESIDENT IN 4 YEARS!

I have been a good friend / family member to a lot of people. I have so many people in my life who are good associates that will make good friends. So I am going to take my self to the next level of success, you stay right there where you are in the midst of your lies, half truths, and belief that I am the problem. YOU ARE RIGHT: IT IS NOT YOU- IT’S ME. Be blessed- Marsha   #lonelyatthetop