My divorce became final July 7, 2021, I have lived on my own since April 22, 2021; I have no regrets. Mentally, I have not been married for over five years. A few weeks ago I decided it was time to start dating.
I am starting a series on dating on my YouTube channel. It is not what I thought it is a bit more complicated because I have grown up but not everyone has. A little over two weeks in to this dating thing I have one hardfast rule: Let’s be friends first.
Why are there so many men over 60 that want to be a ‘player’? They present themselves as this sexy, smooth talking lover- pot belly and all. SMH. Other men have so many guidelines for the woman they want that even if I check all the boxes I don’t want to date them. Who wants a man who expects you to be perfect?The funny thing is: I see through all the layers of protection these men have. We all need to admit, men and women, that we are old.
If we could just be friends there are things that we can do that don’t require either to act like we were having a good time when we were not. If we were trying to be friends we would quickly discover if we really did like each other, if we had anything in common and even if it would be worth attempting a sexual relationship. If I cannot tell you that suit looks terrible on you or you can’t tell me that my wig is wack and neither response is that of anger but appreciation- we are not friends just acquaintances.
Friends talk about everything: the past, the present and the future. Friends talk laugh, cry and sit quietly together. Friends share and a friend will respect the other’s privacy. Friends trust one another and this is should be the basis of any relationship, trust.
If you can become friends you can become good friends. If you are good friends you can become best friends. Best friends are forever. Written by Marsha L Floyd