I have a loud voice and I often have to remind myself to tone it down, especially when I am around friends and family. I believe I learned to be loud because I grew up in a household of five, and I had to speak loud to be heard. I grew up in a pre-cell phone era thus, if I wanted to talk to my friend two houses away I yelled to get her attention. Finally, I believe I speak loud, by habit. But I am not a loud person.
In a public place, on the job or even in my home I don’t yell. I remind myself, when I am around family, to speak quieter if not softly and if someone cannot hear me then I can either speak a little louder or come to closer to the intended recipient of my words. The one thing I have never done is speak loud to make sure all eyes were on me.
I avoid drama. Today, I watch videos of dramatic women of all colors and many declare they are Christian. These women present themselves as righteous, sometimes referring to themselves as “queens”. What I find disturbing is the number of Black women who are not only loud but are out of order and wrong.
By “Out of order” I refer to women who are disrespectful to individuals such as a cashier, or a person in authority or even in a setting in which their are guidelines as to how and when to speak.
I cringed when I saw a Black woman standing in a “Christian” church’s pulpit justifying the events happening in her life despite having admitted to sleeping with a married man. Or, when this woman walked into the courtroom insisting on testifying, loudly accusing an attorney of lying and emasculating a man (by telling his business when she said she would not emasculate him); loud and wrong.
Because I am a female who happens to be Black there are situation in which it is assumed that I too am one of them, a loud female. Women are loud because there are people who will listen, I doubt if they are taken seriously. I think loud women are used because of their skill set. Let me get real for a second, I suspect men like the sexual drama loud women are willing to partake in and, politically women, because they believe in the “glass ceiling” theory. Will leap at the opportunity to prove they can do what a man cannot example: destroy President Trump. Loud women get noticed but they are not respected.
I don’t have cable so I watch YouTube, there are a lot of loud women being talked about politically. Loud women who are being heard are that way because there are people who are amplifying their words for a reason, some of these women are being used. Fashionably dressed (FYI- there are dresses made with front zippers), hair and make up done well and, they travel quite a bit but many women do not understand politically, it is about how you can help achieve the agenda. Slowly but surely, the women that are being talked about on YouTube are being replaced because loud women don’t know when to shut up.
Question: If a woman is being loud in the middle of the Forrest, will anyone hear her? No, but they will be able to hear that woman who has been speaking softly, amplifications not needed. When you are a genteel woman, polite, courteous and knowledgeable, you have no problems with waiting your turn. The one thing Christian women understand is: God will position you at the right time and you will be heard.
Proverbs 8:6 (KJV)
6 Hear; for I will speak of excellent things; and the opening of my lips shall be right things.

Written by Marsha L Floyd